I’m writing this largely to beg other wives to tell me I’m not alone.
To hear I’m not the only wife whose husband thinks rinsing dishes out is some kind of taboo or form of torture I’ve invented just to annoy him. I’m not the only wife whose husband can know the dishes in the dishwasher are dirty, yet stacks them in the sinks. Or the only wife whose husband sometimes uses a roll of toilet paper, pulls out another one, but doesn’t actually change the roll.
Don’t get me wrong. You’re a wonderful husband and father. You’re actually probably a better father than I am a mother, but I know you’d argue that with me. But just once, I wish you’d rinse a dish out. Or change the roll of toilet paper.
I can’t be alone. I just can’t. I wonder if there’s some secret club I don’t know about where husbands learn to do things like rinse their bowl out in the sink instead of leaving milk there to fester all day. If there is, where can I sign you up? I’m kind of at a loss for what to do. Sometimes, I give up and don’t clean for a few days. I let the dishes pile up in the sink, the laundry go undone, etc. It drives me crazy and I crack pretty quickly.
M, you’re a wonderful guy. But would it kill you to check whether the dishes are dirty in the dishwasher before you put your dishes in or around the sink? Or maybe rinse that spoon you eat peanut butter out of the jar with? [You’re so weird.]
I love you, honey.
Let’s work on this together.