Let me start off by saying that we had an incredibly easy go of it when it came to naming Butter. The nickname-that-has-nothing-to-do-with-his-actual-name-aside, when we landed on The Name, it was like the clouds parted, the sun came out, and someone sang. It was just perfect, as in we-knew-before-we-knew-he-was-a-boy perfect.
I was fairly confident we’d have the same ease naming BabyBoyPhan. Oh, I was wrong. Very, very wrong.
There are a few determining factors going in to this. I will not back down on the Middle Name. I didn’t ask for a thing when we named Butter. We each wrote down a list of names, and put them together until we found The Name for him, so I didn’t think I was asking too much when I asked to use my maiden name as a Middle Name. Second – my wonderful, amazing, stellar, fabulous husband made a request I just can’t deny. So we’re decided.
As decided as we can be with, “This is what we would like the first name to kind of be, and Mama Refuses to Budge on the Middle Name, and why, oh why does our last name have to be what it is because it sounds terrible with every good name we’ve come up with?”
It’s a darn good thing we decided a long time ago [aka when we decided on Butter’s name] to keep our kids’ names to ourselves until they’re born. It makes things a heck of a lot easier, especially when people keep asking if we have a name. Deadpanning, “Nope. He literally doesn’t have a first name yet” is kind of fun when you think about it. Especially considering there may have been an incident involving my father trying to get Butter’s name out of me and me being an epic smarty pants about it one day in a book store. Pfft, like you’ve never handed someone a Baby Name book and said, “Here, his name is in here.”
This shouldn’t be so hard. But, it is. It’s ridiculously difficult, because we just can’t agree on anything. If I’m partial to a name, Husband hates it and vice versa. I’d love to say we’ll know what his name should be when we see BabyBoyPhan, but at this point, with my every-two-weeks appointments starting soon? There’s a good chance this kid is coming home without a First Name.