The Potential for Much Awkward

If you’ve met me in person, you know I’m socially awkward. I observe people before I really open up to them & that sometimes comes across as me being rude or thinking I’m above people.

That’s so not true. I can’t even begin to tell you how untrue that really is.

I told you that to explain this to you. My husband – well, really Butter – has put me in an awkward situation. For weeks, Butter has been crushing on one of his classmates. It’s really quite adorable. He spent a couple of weeks telling me all about how he wanted to ask her Mommy if they could have a play date.

He wanted. To ask. Her mother.

We must be doing something right.

I guess he finally got up the nerve to talk to her yesterday? Or maybe that was just the first time in a while they’ve actually been dropped off at the same time. Or maybe my loquacious husband struck up a conversation with her mom & let her know Butter wanted to ask her a question. I don’t know. What I do know is M came home with the classmate’s Mom’s phone number and they were suddenly planning activities.

We’re going to dinner with them tonight. I’m more nervous than I was on my first date with M. I’ve been burned by other Mommies and play dates before. I’m uncomfortable in new situations like this and sometimes can’t get a word in edgewise because of the aforementioned loquacious husband.

I can count on one finger the number of times I’ve actually reached out to a person a second time after a first in person meeting. [Hi, Juli!] I can barely function with the moms from church in most situations. I just don’t have much to say & it comes across as indifference, in my opinion.

This is so much like a first date for me. I have to make small talk, I have to be engaged in the conversation, I have to pretend I want to be there.

How do you handle making Mommy Friends?